Why the child you once were still shapes the adult you are becoming
Most of us don’t realize how much our younger selves are still shaping our adult lives. The worries we carry, the way we react when we feel overwhelmed, and the patterns we fall into without thinking—many of them began long before we were old enough to understand what was happening.
That’s where Growing Up, Looking Back: A Fresh Approach to Inner Child Work really begins.
Inner child work isn’t about “becoming a child again.” It’s about gently reconnecting with the parts of ourselves that were formed during our earliest years—the parts that learned how to cope, how to stay safe, how to earn love, or how to avoid conflict. These younger parts influence our emotional responses today, often without our awareness.
Inner child work helps us slow down, listen, and understand.
And when we do that, something powerful happens: old patterns soften, compassion grows, and we start responding from a grounded, capable place rather than an old protective one.
What Inner Child Work Actually Looks Like
Inner child work is a process of getting deeply curious about the younger parts of you. Together we explore:
- Where certain beliefs or fears started
- How childhood experiences shaped your responses today
- What your younger self needed but didn’t receive
- What tools you can use now to support those parts
This isn’t about reliving the past. It’s about bringing awareness and compassion to it.
In my approach—which blends Conversational Tranceformation™, Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®), and practical coaching—we take a gentle, insight-based path. Each modality works together to help you understand where patterns began, how they still show up today, and how to shift them with clarity and compassion. This integrated style supports both the emotional healing of the inner child and the practical skills needed to create real change in your daily life.
Think of it as having a guide helping you connect the dots between “why this still bothers me” and “what I can do differently now.”
You don’t have to know exactly what you’re looking for. Most people come in simply feeling like something inside them needs attention or soothing—and that’s enough.
Why I’m Deeply Connected to This Work
People often ask why I feel so at home doing inner child work. The truth is:
I’ve spent most of my life working and understanding kids—how they think, feel, cope, and communicate.
A lifetime of working with children
My work with children started at 12, babysitting and supporting families in my community. By 15, I was working in daycare. By my early 20s, I was managing a full daycare program at a ski resort in Alberta.
These years gave me real-world insight into child behaviour and emotional development—insight that deeply informs how I guide adults through their inner child healing.
Formal training in development and psychology
I completed Early Childhood Education through the University of Lethbridge and studied child psychology, providing me with developmental frameworks, attachment theory, emotional regulation patterns, and behavioural understanding.
Experience with teens navigating big emotions
My time at Options for Sexual Health—supporting teens with identity, relationships, boundaries, and difficult emotions—added another layer to my work and taught me how to create safe spaces for vulnerable conversations.
Parenting twins
And of course, being a parent of identical twins has given me a front-row seat to how differently children experience the world—even with the same genetics and environment. Parenting has shaped not only my compassion, but my ability to spot developmental patterns quickly and accurately.
Put all of this together, and you have a blend of intuition, training, lived experience, and emotional depth that makes inner child work natural, grounded, and effective.
Why Inner Child Work Helps So Many Adults
As adults, we often assume we’ve “outgrown” childhood experiences.
But the patterns that formed early don’t disappear—they simply become more sophisticated.
Inner child work helps adults identify when they’re reacting from:
- Old fear instead of current reality
- Learned responsibility instead of healthy boundary
- People-pleasing instead of authentic want
- Survival strategies instead of choice
When you understand why a reaction exists, you gain the power to interrupt it.
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If You’re Feeling a Pull Toward This Work… Here’s Why That Matters
Adults are incredibly skilled at ignoring their internal signals.
We shrug off discomfort, call it “stress,” or assume we simply need to work harder, cope better, or “get over it.”
But that quiet pull—the curiosity, the nudge, the sense that something inside you is ready to shift—is meaningful.
It often shows up when:
- You’re tired of repeating the same pattern
- You feel like you’ve outgrown an old identity
- Your nervous system wants more peace
- A part of you wants to stop bracing for impact
- You’re finally ready to understand rather than avoid
This is where Growing Up, Looking Back: A Fresh Approach to Inner Child Healing becomes powerful for adults. It gives you the language, tools, and emotional clarity your younger self never had access to.
In my work, using Conversational Tranceformation™, RTT®, and coaching, we approach this gently and collaboratively. You stay grounded. You stay in control. And you build a version of yourself that feels calmer and more aligned with who you want to be—not who you had to be.
You never have to do this work alone.
And if you’re feeling that pull, it’s likely because a part of you already knows—it’s time.
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