“I can’t believe that you are such an idiot! How come you are so stupid? You’re the worst person who could ever live.”
Pain is a Pain
When I first came across Marissa Peer and Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®) on the podcast “Diary of a CEO” with Steven Bartlett, I had been searching for a way to fix the pain in my hands and feet. I had gone through all the conventional medical pathways, testing for fibromyalgia, multiple sclerosis (MS), Lou Gehrig’s disease (ALS), and rheumatoid arthritis.
One of the appointments was with a neurologist. She was testing nerves in my hands and feet to hopefully rule out multiple sclerosis. Adam Grant, in his book “Think Again,” talks about being a scientist and approaching problems with an open mind. I was willing to listen to anything the specialist said to me. The amazing thing about searching for solutions is that when you’re open and curious, you can explore many paths. Living remotely, I had to look for help up to 5-6 hours away and often faced long waiting lists.
The surprising part was that I didn’t connect neurology with the mind. To this day, I find that very interesting. It wasn’t until she said, “All of your physical tests are in the normal range,” that I really started to think. This was a thorough doctor who spent quite a bit of time with me, reviewing all my tests. The next thing she said was, “Just because your physical tests are normal doesn’t mean you’re not in pain. It just means we have to consider that the pain is coming from somewhere else, rather than your body.” I thought, “Well, if it’s not from my body, where the heck is it from?” She pointed me in the direction of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).
CBT was a great place to start because it gave me a direction to travel in. Any progress forward felt like progress toward something better. Being able to understand that there was something other than crawling up the stairs on my hands and knees, feeling like I was 1000 years old, and progressing in any kind of direction that would remotely help was amazing.
The Search for Understanding
My search for understanding, especially in the scientific world, began early. My husband and I were pretty young, around 23-24, when we became owners of a home medical equipment business. In that business, we encountered every health challenge imaginable—physical issues like quadriplegia, paraplegia, cerebral palsy affecting mobility to the point of needing a wheelchair for life, as well as pain from cancer, chronic pain, ostomies, and acute injuries from work or sports.
During that time, after 4 years of trying to conceive, we became parents to identical twins. The stress of owning a business, feeling responsible for employees and babies, and caring deeply about many divergent things became crystal clear. It made me reflect deeply: Did I want to rely on medication every day, or face the prospect of being unable to move, possibly needing a wheelchair, walker, or scooter in the future—especially as a new parent? These thoughts lingered in the back of my mind for a long time. It became clear to me that I needed to prioritize my health and well-being so that I could live better and show up fully for my children.
When facing health challenges years later, it felt outside of my control. Having a clear path to follow was immensely gratifying. So, I started with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which led me to discover the Curable app and Rachel Zoffness’s “The Pain Management Workbook.” The Curable app served as a gateway into the podcast world, introducing me to Jay Shetty’s “On Purpose” and “The Happiness Lab,” where I found a wealth of fascinating content. Beyond podcasts, I explored books, YouTube, and other sources of information. Embracing a scientific mindset opened up numerous avenues for self-help.
The Power of the Mind
Although I’ve always had a passion for psychology, especially child psychology, you don’t need any prior knowledge to apply these techniques to find information. It’s all about taking things one step at a time – thank you, Jay Shetty, for that insight! My approach used to be riddled with procrastination because I could envision the end result but struggled with the process. Now I understand that progress happens through consistent, incremental steps; there’s no quick fix or effortless path. Finding joy, fulfillment, and achievement is possible, especially when approached with a positive mindset. This shift marked the beginning of my true healing journey. Through ongoing exploration and learning, I came across the enlightening “Diary of a CEO” podcast.
A little over a year ago, I heard Marisa Peer talking about Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®) on the podcast. Through all the different aspects of my healing journey, and maybe by serendipity (although I don’t believe in coincidences), she said something that made me sit up and take notice. She was talking about her book, “Tell Yourself a Better Lie”; just the title made me think: What do you mean I can ‘lie’ to myself about how I am feeling? Why would that work? I listened and then searched out all the other places, podcasts, and information that I could find about what she meant.
Because I think like a scientist, I explored the concepts she was talking about. I also tested them to see if they work. Then, I bought her books, “I Am Enough” and “Tell Yourself a Better Lie.” I was halfway through “I Am Enough” and got to the Rules of the Mind. That’s when I signed up to become a Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®) therapist. The subconscious rewire and deep mindset work were incredible. Just hearing what she said helped transform my life. I started to think about myself as a healthy, fit person because that’s what I wanted to be.
As an aside, ‘Diary of a CEO’ remains my favorite podcast to this day. I love Steven Bartlett’s approach to interviewing—he asks questions of his guests that resonate deeply with me: What was your life like? Where do you come from? What motivates you? Why pursue your interests? His podcast, categorized under Business, Education, and Health, feels therapeutic in its depth. I started listening to the episodes sequentially, likely from Malcolm Gladwell onwards. The journey is exciting as there’s so much more to explore. Each guest, from diverse industries and backgrounds, offers invaluable insights. I find something to learn from every single person featured.
Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®)
Fast forward and I now deeply understand what happened to cause the pain in my hands and feet. My root cause of those symptoms was the belief, I’m not enough which was due to Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®). When I tell my friends and loved ones the words I used towards myself, they are shocked because I never treat them that way. I treat them as if I care about them and love them; they hear that I love them regularly. They feel the love I have for them. But I never once told myself that. Knowing that I could tell myself that I am enough started me on my true healing journey. I no longer say how stupid I am; I no longer say I’m an idiot, why can’t you do that right, what’s wrong with you, and any other horribly negative thought.
I’m not going to tell you there’s a magic pill; there isn’t one. I thought there was but that’s only our mind tricking us into thinking that we can do it the easy way – it’s a Rule of the Mind to conserve resources for survival. There is, however, a hack and that is Rapid Transformation Therapy (RTT®). Since Marisa’s words were so inspiring in changing in my life, I imagined what working with the mind could do for myself and others.
My experience with the limiting belief that I wasn’t enough and unlovable is a feeling like you are travelling through life in a brackish swamp with water up to your knees. Every step smells putrid and there is a lot of resistance as you push through trying to gain forward momentum. Top that with not knowing why you feel like you are Shrek in the Swamp, it kept me in bed a lot of days. Now I know that the trick is an awareness that most of these beliefs are hidden from view. They accumulate over time and become heavy and weighted without you realizing it. In my case, the only thing I felt is that my hands and feet were sore because the belief operates at a subconscious level.
With the Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®) tools, I learned how to skillfully guide someone on their healing journey with confidence, with compassion and with love. All I’ve ever wanted in life is to be able to help people. I want to inspire someone to understand they are enough just as they are. Feeling so free and so loved and so excited now that I know what was driving my behaviour. I am free from my limiting beliefs so that I can truly help people around me. So that people can realize all their own dreams and aspirations and become their most authentic self. Once we know that we have triggers from our beliefs we can fix them. This is why it’s essential to understand where limiting beliefs come from and why they are so powerful.
The Path to Healing
Healing yourself takes work but it doesn’t have to be hard. What my life looks like now compared to how it looked even two years ago is night and day. I pay attention every day to my thoughts, my movement, my eating habits, and my life’s purpose. If I had told myself I’d be making all these habit changes, I would have thought, “No way, that sounds impossible.”
But I’ll let you in on a little secret: it’s the most fulfilling, loving, purposeful enjoyment I get in life. I can’t wait to wake up in the morning to see what the day is like, and I go to sleep at night knowing that life is truly the most amazing, authentic life I’d been searching for. Not perfect—there were issues like perfectionism and some OCD in my operating system—but now I can use that attention to detail as my superpower to help others. There are days that are more challenging than others, but I recognize that I can use my recording to remind me about my inner Cheerleader, so the day gets better and brighter.
Taking this journey toward my own healing is the most incredible gift I could give myself. Investing in my health and healing, I am transformed from the hateful, mean, ugly person I was to myself to now realizing I’m safe, loved, protected, and significant—not in a boastful way, but in a confidently humble way. I don’t let myself be talked about without love; I advocate for myself because I deserve it. I’m enough, and because I’m enough, I expect others to treat me as if I’m enough. The amazing power of understanding what you don’t know about yourself is incredibly transformative.
I wouldn’t trade any other lesson I’ve had to learn in life to get me where I am today. All the things I’ve learned on this journey inform who I am and because I love who I am, I cheerlead for myself first, and then I can help millions of people cheer for themselves as well. You too, can invest in your future self with the healing techniques of RTT®, I know how to guide you to root cause, so that you can truly be free.
In love and care,
Lanna
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